At the age of 43 I find myself, finally, realizing what men really and truly want!  It is something that I have noticed my entire life but only recently have I realized that is seems to be true.  ALL MEN WANT SEX AND LOTS OF IT!  Men think about sex more than women do, but most of the times they do not admit it or are afraid to express their sexual fantasies with their partner for fear of rejection.  Because, lets face it ladies...many of you are not willing to explore all of the areas that men want to go.  I have been a nail technician for 25 years and have heard every sex story imaginable and I have told even more myself.  My mind stays in the gutter, I have yet to figure out if this is a blessing or a curse, but I like my twisted outlook on sex and I have found that most people laugh when sex is brought up.  Maybe that's why I speak about it so much, I love it when people laugh. Lately, I have been involved with many men in all different types of relationships.  I have not been physical with them all, to be honest, hardly any of them, but my point is...If I would allow things to go that way, Most if not ALL of them would take it there, whether they are married or not!  I have many guys asking me for advice about sex and women and why their wife wont do this or that.  I do not think me talking sex to some guy over the Internet is going to help the situation when the problem is obviously in their relationship....and it is most likely because his wife is not hearing what he needs or desires, and/or the man is not applying himself to the needs of his wife...Some women don't understand that a lot of, not all, but a lot of men portray love as sex...so if you refrain from sex then he feels as though you don't love him or you aren't attracted to him.  Women, most of the time, base their emotions on how the man treats her.  If they cater to our emotional needs.  I had a male friend tell me one day, "For women, sex is an EMOTION", "For men, most times it is just a MOTION"...I thought about that for months and after another failed relationship on my end, I finally realized that I mistook A LOT of sexual encounters as meaning so much more, but in essence to him, it was JUST SEX!  Then it hit me, Maybe I can start thinking like most men do, and treat sex as just sex!  But for me, it would be much more difficult.  Because, in the eyes of society, the woman is a whore if she shares herself with multiple partners while the man is considered a stud!  Explain that one to me please?  My thought is, go ahead and judge and start sewing my scarlet letter now, because what everyone else thinks of me, is okay with me.  Because I found that I do not necessarily have to have sex with anyone in order to feel complete or special.  Once a man realizes that you really do not want anything from them, and all you desire is time spent together, having laughs, drinks and some good times...If they like you enough to pay your mortgage, then, hell yeah...you know how to work it!  But if they don't, its okay!  Just enjoy life and have fun getting to know people and experiencing new things.  I spent too much of my young life focusing on the house, the car, the marriage, taking care of my man, being the good girlfriend, the good wife etc...It got me NOWHERE!  I certainly hate to sound cynical, but men do not want a good girl anymore then a woman wants a good guy!  Most of us, seem to have an attraction for someone that has a little bad boy/bad girl in them.  Note: I do say MOST, because I am not trying to lump all men and women into one category, there are plenty of fish in the sea that are content with the good guy and find very meaningful lasting relationships and have healthy marriages.  BUT, for women like myself, that love sex...Love to talk about it, think about it, act it out etc....There are men out there that feel the same way and we tend to end up in relationships that do not appreciate our love for it, or abuse it...in a sense!  I do not care who you are, SEX is a good thing, and should not be treated as something bad!  My body is a temple, no reason why I cannot have more than one worshiper!  :) You will hear even more of my thoughts on this subject tomorrow and every other day after that if you care to follow along to my stories.  You will find that I tend to ramble and jump all over the place a bit, but I type what pops in my head.  Along the way, you will hear some wild stories of my life and experiences I have had, and I can find a smile and a sense of humor in every bit of it!